We need more spaces within our communities where it’s okay to say, “I’m not okay right now”, without fear of being judged or seen as less capable.

“Are you ok, coach?”

This is not really a question that business coaches like me are usually asked. After all, our industry is built on empowering others. We as coaches are often seen as resilient, driven, and unshakable. We are expected to be pillars of strength for our clients.

But beneath the surface, we also face our own mental health challenges. We often feel anxious about whether we are meeting our client’s expectations. We worry about how we can continue to grow our business. We feel like imposters, questioning if we are truly making a difference. We juggle our own feelings while managing the high emotional labor that coaching is. And with coaching being a solitary profession, feelings of isolation may arise. Indeed, I’ve had my share of sleepless nights wondering if I’m doing enough, if I’m truly making an impact.

In a demanding industry where coaches are constantly supporting others – who supports us?

The answer lies in our coaching communities. Being part of a community is vital for our mental health and wellbeing. We thrive when we have strong and supportive communities around us.

My coaching community – from the larger Meyler Campbell community to my German alumni friends as well as my wonderful Group Supervision colleagues – they all have been an anchor for me. It is where I find connections, where I can ask for advice, and where I am reminded that I’m not alone on this journey. In this community, I’ve learned that it’s okay not to have all the answers. My coaching community is not just a network; it’s my support system, my inspiration, and my reminder that even as I help others, I am supported too.

And as much as I value my coaching community, I also believe there’s room for growth—especially when it comes to mental health, vulnerability, and addressing the challenges we all face behind the scenes.

One of the biggest gaps I see is the hesitation to talk openly about mental health. While we encourage our clients to be vulnerable and prioritize their well-being, we often feel like we must maintain a facade of strength. There’s still a lingering fear that admitting to struggles might be seen as a weakness or a sign of incompetence.

We need more spaces within our communities where it’s okay to say, “I’m not okay right now,” without fear of being judged or seen as less capable. Vulnerability shouldn’t just be encouraged for our clients—it should be something we embrace ourselves.

I would like to invite us all to – next to excelling at offering professional development – to also see how we can provide mental health resources into our community. Specifically, how can we integrate mental health more into our regular conversations and peer support systems?

By continuing in creating a culture where mental well-being is openly discussed, supported, and prioritized, we will not only strengthen our community – it will also make us better coaches. Because at the heart of every thriving coach is a human being who also needs care, connection, compassion and community.

Barbara Kearney

A Leadership Advisor and Coach who passionately believes in the power of human leadership. She supports individuals and teams committed to driving change, fostering growth, and making a meaningful impact through open, inspiring, and constructive dialogue.